“It’s resolution time and you’re probably asking yourself, “Have I made them? Have I started them? Have I already messed them up?” Ariane de Bonvoisin
2020 has definitely been a challenging year and I think we are all ready to let it go and focus on the New Year. It’s the time many of us make resolutions only to find they have been broken by the end of January. Given all the heartache, drama and chaos of 2020, I would like to suggest a gentler approach. I received a great article from Oprah suggesting we try some questions for the New Year instead of resolutions. This seems to me to be a more flexible approach. The full article can be found here:
What Do I Most Want to Feel This Year?
To me, this is a much softer approach than a resolution which usually feels like a rule. When you decide how you want to feel, life can take shape around that. What we create in our lives flows from how we feel – all the moments, hours, days, weeks and years of our lives. When we start with a resolution, we start with a rule and if we don’t follow it, we feel bad which is self-defeating. According to Abraham-Hicks, everything we want is because of how we think we will feel when we have it. What you want to feel can even be a mantra for the New Year. What I want to feel is more joy. I have a painting on my wall that says, “Today I choose Joy.” This will be my mantra for the New Year. I do believe we can learn to choose how we feel. If you are in a negative place right now, that might seem crazy, but you don’t have to “leap” to your good feeling all at once. Focus on a thought that feels better, then another and work your way up. The emotional guidance scale available in the post on Resistance is a great tool to help with that.
How Am I Going to Get Back on Track When Life Gets Hard?
This is a great question because it allows us to be human. There probably will be difficult moments and bad days this year. This question allows for refocusing and readjusting. What helps you get back on track when things get rough? One of my favorites is to recognize the negative chatter in my mind, remember they are just thoughts, not from my true self and let them go. Focusing on a mantra can be helpful, too. Or, taking a walk, talking to a friend, listening to music, meditating – what works for you?
Whom Am I Going to Choose to Love Unconditionally This Year?
The easy choice would be your spouse or a child or friend. Instead, choose a relationship that needs some attention. For me, it would be two of. my co-workers. They are both very nice people and committed to their work, but for some reason, they annoy me. I realize I allow that to happen. So, my intention is to accept them for who they are.
I hope these questions for the New Year maybe help you shift your perspective a little. How we think and feel is at the core of who we are and directly influences what we attract into out lives. Make this a year that you choose how you want to feel and allow things to unfold from there!